What is it you want?

About fifteen years ago, I was at a place in my journey where I realized “I don’t want to live this life anymore” and that thought eventually became a decision and a choice.  I left behind the life I had been living and moved into the unknown.  It’s one thing to become aware that the life you are living is not the one you want to live; it’s a whole other thing to begin to examine what it is you do want.  Here are some thoughts and questions culled from my journals that helped me discover the life I wanted and gave me the strength and courage to reach out for that life.

  • It’s not always easy or “pain free” to make choices and decisions that lead to the life you want.
    • The life you want becomes clearer as you move towards that part of it that is already clear to you.
    • It matters to ask yourself “why”. For example,  say I want to move out of the city and into the country. “why?” What is moving to the country going to give me or provide me with? What do I see such a move accomplishing in my life? If I stay in the city what will I lose or be giving up on?
    • If you don’t move forward towards what you want, are you then moving towards what you don’t want? How much does your spirit cooperate in either giving you what you want, or, conversely, what you don’t want?
    • How does the universe whether on the outside of our physical being, or the universe within us know what we want other than by observing what we do? Is this a version of “where your heart is, there will your treasure be also”?
    • If I say I want to go East and yet I continue to travel westward, what happens? Obviously I don’t arrive in the East. Do I, at some point, forget that I even wanted to go East? Do I look for a spot to turn around and miss it because I am moving too fast, or am distracted and eventually decide since I’ve come this far, I might as well continue on in a westward direction? Do I learn to be content in the West rather than expend the energy to go back in an eastward direction?
    • How do you fulfill your dreams if you don’t begin to do what you dream of?  It’s like saying “I’ve always wanted a brick home” and, in the meantime, the last four houses you’ve bought have had siding or cedar shingles on them. Not that this makes a home of less value or less beauty than one made of brick. It is simply that what you want or long for is one made of brick. And what happens when you do buy that house of brick? Does it feel more like home? Is it warmer, better? Or does it just give you that feeling, each time you pull into the driveway of, “this is something I’ve always wanted”. And with that sense of warmth, of value about yourself, what else comes along, what else enters your life when you are living it in a way that says “I matter – my dreams, my wishes are important”.

I can tell you, looking back, that there is no greater adventure than deciding that you’re going to live the life you want!  It won’t always be easy, there will be people who are disappointed in you for not maintaining the status quo, there will be times when you feel discouraged, and a time of grief for what you left behind even though there wasn’t much there for you and grief, as well, that you didn’t step out sooner and reach for your dreams.  But don’t let any of that stop you.  Life is not a dress rehearsal; this is your life, right here, right now, this moment – if it doesn’t resemble the life you want – choose to change it!


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    1. very much so. Life has continue to evolve, over these years, in an ebb and tide of the lovely and the challenging. I am loving where I am now, both figuratively and literally.
      Thank you for stopping by and taking the time to comment. It is much appreciated.


  1. There is no better person to advise than one who has walked the walk Joss.. And you make some strong points.. So many keep walking the treadmill of life, bemoaning the fact that they want it to change, yet they do not even begin to put in the effort to make it change..
    We have to take responsibility for our lives and yes, at times those choices are tough and like you said we do not have a road map. We have to try and make changes to the things that no longer serve us..

    You are a remarkable lady Joss.. One whom I so admire, in that your conviction to find the beauty within..
    Stepping out of our comfort blankets is hard.. But we need to test and stretch ourselves as we grow..

    Wonderful and inspiring Joss..

    Love Sue xxx ❤

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    1. what a thoughtful comment. Thank you for your kind words. We are only stuck, it seems to me, because it’s what we choose. And sometimes those choices are okay for a while for a variety of reasons. I do think that we are given opportunities, over and over, to step out, step away, from that which no longer is life affirming.

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      1. Totally agree with you.. I was shown this several times in my life, yet the stubbornness of me refused to move out of my comfort zone in what I thought I knew in over 28 yrs of experience within my working career.. So when I did not listen.. My body then MADE me.. and once I had listened and made a switch into a completely new area.. I healed physically as well as mentally.. The Signs are always there and given.. Its up to us to see them and then follow them..
        Much love to you dear Joss.. xxx ❤

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      2. Yes, that happened with me with the Fibro. I finally listened and boy, I did not like what I heard but I did the work. It’s always about doing the work! Blessings on your day, dear Sue.

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  2. Another post to read and think about Joss. As I always told my clients,, You are where you are today because of the decisions you made yesterday. You are in a good place now because of the decisions you made. May you continue to flourish in this good place, my sister of choice.

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    1. That’s so true. Too often we don’t know what life might look like or could look like or even what we want it to look like. Hugs back at ya from a sunny day in Cuenca.


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